Why Does My Spouse Do That? (EBook)

Behind every conflict, silence, or misunderstanding in marriage lies a story waiting to be understood.
Why Does My Spouse Do That? is a compassionate and convenient guide for couples seeking to rediscover connection, understanding, and peace in their relationship.

Blending over 25 years of marriage experience with my expertise as a registered nurse psychotherapist, I invite readers into an honest exploration of what makes or breaks modern relationships. Through relatable case studies, guided reflections, and evidence-based insights, this book helps couples uncover the real reasons behind recurring frustrations and emotional distance—and how to heal them.

What You’ll Learn
Why Does My Spouse Do That? isn’t a theoretical book—it’s a workbook for growth. Each chapter ends with Action Points designed to help couples reflect, apply, and rebuild intimacy day by day. You’ll learn how to:

• Identify unresolved childhood and emotional wounds that affect your marriage today

• Break free from unhealthy communication and power dynamics

• Manage complex seasons like infertility, postpartum depression, ego clashes, or financial strain

• Navigate intimacy issues, aging-related hormonal changes, and shifting emotional needs

• Recognize signs of domestic violence and set healthy, faith-grounded boundaries

• Rebuild trust after infidelity or disappointment

• Strengthen emotional and physical connection through empathy, forgiveness, and teamwork

How the Book Is Structured
The book is divided into three parts, guiding couples on a journey from reflection to renewal:

1. Understanding the Past – Discover how unresolved personal and family experiences shape today’s marital patterns.

2. Navigating the Present – Address day-to-day challenges and communication breakdowns with practical, psychology-backed tools.

3. Here’s to the Future – Learn how to future-proof your relationship through forgiveness, resilience, and shared purpose.

Each section flows with real-life stories, professional insights, and therapy-informed guidance, ending with reflection worksheets that help couples personalize their growth.

Whether you’re newly married, struggling through years of tension, or rebuilding after pain, this book offers empathy, structure, and hope. It’s especially valuable for immigrant couples and families adjusting to new cultures while trying to preserve love and harmony at home.

What Makes It Different
Unlike typical marriage books, Why Does My Spouse Do That? merges clinical understanding and real-world marriage experience. It’s been described by mental health professionals as “a well-loaded, research-based relationship manual” that feels personal and practical and promotes healing.